Ongehoord!

Here’s recent podcast with Marije Janssen – we cover the Wheel, of course, along with trying to define sex, sexuality, consent. Requests, offers and invitations. Also debunking a few consent myths. The first minute or so is in Dutch. Then the conversation is in English. Thank you, Marije! Ongehoord! aflevering

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Sharing the Wheel of Consent

Thank you for asking about sharing the Wheel of Consent – I am thrilled that so many people are finding it useful. It’s gone around the world ahead of me! Below – a letter from me about that, and this video. Thanks! Please use these free hand-outs: https://bettymartin.org/download-wheel/ Another video

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That word, ‘Energy’

Someone recently wrote to me, saying that they are working on their presentation for a conference (in Montreal!) and they had heard that in my classes I prefer people to not use the word ‘energy’, and asked if I would explain why. Word gets around, I guess – Montreal! (http://amours2.com/)

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2 Hand-outs

Woo-hoo! It took a while but here ya go – A 1-page booklet on the 3 Minute Game … and the shortest possible explanation of the quadrants. To print: Set your printer at 100%. (Your printer’s default is often 96%). This makes the folds come out right. To fold: www.youtube.com/watch?v=21qi9ZcQVto

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Interviews

Here’s the lovely Charlotte Cronquist, who took Like a Pro last year in Berlin. Most of her podcast is in Swedish, but for us she switched to English. This is not about the Wheel of Consent, but more about my personal journey and changes. About 35 min. Thank you Charlotte!

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Letter to a Christian

This is an exchange from a few years back – name is changed, of course. The inquiry came to me via my companion website, hence the name, ‘Beth’. Dear Beth, I am a committed Christian and that is the course of my spiritual/ faith growth.  If it wasn’t for my

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The Bossy Massage

(40 min.) I discovered this one somewhat by accident, some years back, and the more I play with it, the more powerful I notice it is. The point of this one is not the ‘massage’. It’s not the touch at all – it’s the process of noticing what it is

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Joyful Embodiment – another webinar!

Another webinar! A follow up to the previous one, this time with Deej Juventin and Uma Furman. The 3 of us are facilitating In the Field, an advanced training for Sexological Bodyworkers, and Growing in Embodiment, a 5 day retreat for anyone who is ready to enjoy themselves more in

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Joyful Embodiment – a webinar

[Video here – audio is below, which you can download] February 15, 2016, with Betty, Katie Sarra of Dawlish, UK, and Curt Mason of Sydney Australia. Yes, the irony is not lost on me, using a webinar to talk about embodiment! Nevertheless, we do explain a few things and take

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Learning you have a choice

(12 min.) This is somewhat of an extension of the Bossy Massage – same principle. The receiver, or ‘client’ directs every step along the way. Once I started playing with this one, I heard that someone else was doing something similar (Clinton Callahan) and that he had had excellent results

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This blog

These posts are in no particular order – they are here because it’s the easiest place to put them! Most are for practitioners, but anyone is welcome. There are a few personal odds and ends as well. I hope you find them useful. Much of what’s here is also on

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What we have backwards

( 6 min.) Here’s a clip about what most of us body workers have backwards. We tend to think the doing is what counts – but there is another piece that has far greater ramifications, both in the moment and long term. From Like a Pro, Oakland, October 2015  

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The moral issue of our time

this is an email i wrote a while back, in response to a question to a group of us (my extended family), by my son, wondering if the climate crisis was the moral issue of our time, and asking for the christians in the group (of whom i am not

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Notes on becoming an elder

This is not a well formed article – just some notes from last weekend. Might as well put them here as anywhere. Met with a small group of elder women friends, my peers, to talk about this, and these are some highlights for me. Difference between an elder and an

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Facilitating Groups (audio)

I love facilitating groups – I love that people learn so much from each other, and both challenge and support each other. I’m part of the teaching team for Foundations of Facilitation and the Cuddle Party Facilitator Certification course. These 2 tele-classes were with my co-facilitators – Marcia Baczynski and

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Sacred Sexuality (audio)

Is it a useful concept? Hmmm . . . depends . . . Sacred Sexuality ~ What’s the fuss? How and why it can be helpful and how it might not be. And what is it anyway? (1 hour, August 2011) To listen: click the link. To download: on a

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