Ongehoord!
Here’s recent podcast with Marije Janssen – we cover the Wheel, of course, along with trying to define sex, sexuality, consent. Requests, offers and invitations. Also debunking a few consent
Continue readingCan you play with the Wheel by yourself?
This is a question that came up recently and I’d like to answer it. The Wheel of Consent is a diagram of what happens when 2 (or more) people make
Continue readingWhat is Like a Pro? And What is the Wheel?
Thank you, Carole, for inviting me, and offering this interview. I look forward to being there!
Continue readingA Team of 3: You, Your Client, and their other Helpers
This is a recent webinar, with my friend Dr. Susan Kaye, about the Triadic Model, and the Expanded Triadic Model, in how to work with other professionals in support of
Continue readingSharing the Wheel of Consent
Thank you for asking about sharing the Wheel of Consent – I am thrilled that so many people are finding it useful. It’s gone around the world ahead of me!
Continue reading‘Thank you for taking care of yourself’
‘Thank you for taking care of yourself’ – That’s a sentence you’re bound to hear if you attend various workshops that have anything to do with touch or consent. However
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That word, ‘Energy’
Someone recently wrote to me, saying that they are working on their presentation for a conference (in Montreal!) and they had heard that in my classes I prefer people to
Continue readingSex work, men and women and the Wheel, Trust, Choices and Integrity
A conversation Manuel Harand in Vienna. Manuel asks about, and we talk about, how I started on this path, what sex work means, how men and women differ (in general)
Continue readingSexual healing – which modality?
Here’s an email from my archives – about why people might choose a surrogate over other forms of help or touch. Hi Betty, I met you at the recent ****
Continue reading2 Hand-outs
Woo-hoo! It took a while but here ya go – A 1-page booklet on the 3 Minute Game … and the shortest possible explanation of the quadrants. To print: Set
Continue readingWebinar Recording: Working with other practitioners
Here’s the recording of the webinar with Dr. Susan Kaye and myself. We talk about the Triadic model – therapist, client, body practitioner-or-surrogate. What the practitioner needs to know and
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Here’s the lovely Charlotte Cronquist, who took Like a Pro last year in Berlin. Most of her podcast is in Swedish, but for us she switched to English. This is
Continue readingLetter to a Christian
This is an exchange from a few years back – name is changed, of course. The inquiry came to me via my companion website, hence the name, ‘Beth’. Dear Beth,
Continue readingThe Bossy Massage
(40 min.) I discovered this one somewhat by accident, some years back, and the more I play with it, the more powerful I notice it is. The point of this
Continue readingJoyful Embodiment – another webinar!
Another webinar! A follow up to the previous one, this time with Deej Juventin and Uma Furman. The 3 of us are facilitating In the Field, an advanced training for
Continue readingJoyful Embodiment – a webinar
[Video here – audio is below, which you can download] February 15, 2016, with Betty, Katie Sarra of Dawlish, UK, and Curt Mason of Sydney Australia. Yes, the irony is
Continue readingTeaching your Client to Touch
Here’s the recording of our free teleclass on Jan. 6, 2016. Here you get to hear about the basic principles as well as some steps to take. (Includes bonus topic
Continue readingThoughts on the Taking Quadrant – with Harry
(5 min.) I love Harry! Here’s a clip (from a longer conversation) in which we ruminate on things related to the Taking Quadrant.
Continue readingQ&A on the G-spot massage
(11 min.) I have a very different view on the G-spot massage than most people. Recorded at Like a Pro, Oakland, 2014.
Continue readingLearning you have a choice
(12 min.) This is somewhat of an extension of the Bossy Massage – same principle. The receiver, or ‘client’ directs every step along the way. Once I started playing with
Continue readingThis blog
These posts are in no particular order – they are here because it’s the easiest place to put them! Most are for practitioners, but anyone is welcome. There are a
Continue readingSex work, healing work (audio)
One of my favorite topics! ~ What is the intersection of sex work and healing work? And what are they, anyway? (1 hour, May 2011) To listen: click the link.
Continue readingHow to play the 3-Minute Game
(14 min.) Thank you to all the friends who so generously starred in this video! DOWNLOAD THE BOOKLET: Letter Size, for US A4 size for Europe, Australia and UK WHERE
Continue reading3 Calls on Consent – for practitioners (audio)
Here’s a series of calls from spring 2015 – Beyond the Basics, for practitioners. This is one long lesson, but in 3 parts. To listen – just click the link.
Continue readingNotes on teaching the Wheel
(20 min) After the Like a Pro class in Berlin, a number of students had questions about teaching the Wheel of Consent to their students and clients. The short answer:
Continue readingWhat we have backwards
( 6 min.) Here’s a clip about what most of us body workers have backwards. We tend to think the doing is what counts – but there is another piece
Continue readingThe moral issue of our time
this is an email i wrote a while back, in response to a question to a group of us (my extended family), by my son, wondering if the climate crisis
Continue readingNotes on becoming an elder
This is not a well formed article – just some notes from last weekend. Might as well put them here as anywhere. Met with a small group of elder women
Continue readingFacilitating Groups (audio)
I love facilitating groups – I love that people learn so much from each other, and both challenge and support each other. I’m part of the teaching team for Foundations
Continue readingFor practitioners: on taking turns, receiving and being a client
Harry and me: get on the table, dear!
Continue readingShame and empowerment in hands-on session work
(24 min.) An overview of basic principles about hands-on session work – what it is that creates awareness and empowerment and why the choosing is more important that the doing.
Continue readingReceiving, giving and one-way touch (audio)
One Way Touch ~ How it works, how to love it, why it feeds you. What you need to know as a professional. This was at the request of a
Continue readingSacred Sexuality (audio)
Is it a useful concept? Hmmm . . . depends . . . Sacred Sexuality ~ What’s the fuss? How and why it can be helpful and how it might
Continue reading2 more on consent (audio)
A few more from the files . . . Consent, Boundaries and Mentoring professionals ~ I am interviewed by Laurie Handler on her WebTalk Radio Show. (about 45 minutes, June
Continue readingHappy Birthday, Bonny!
My new friends at Angsbacka retreat in Sweden, sang happy birthday to my daughter, back in the USA, who turned 35 that day – thank you all!
Continue readingA conversation with Harry Faddis
(1 hour) Harry Faddis is the inventor of the 3 Minute Game – thank you, Harry! This spring I got to finally meet Harry and we had a nice long
Continue readingOptions – what to offer your clients
Here’s the short version – just a definition. Below is the full version, with more questions and discussion with the practitioners there.
Continue reading2 workshops: In the Field – and – Growing in Embodiment
(5 min.) Last year I had the great good fortune of teaching with Uma Furman and Deej Juventin in Australia. Next year we offer the same thing in the U.K.
Continue readingEthical Practices: Containers, Conversations and Assessment Protocols for Somatic Sex Educators and other Sex Workers
Here is the recording of last week’s [March 2016] webinar, presented by The Somatic Sex Educators Association of Canada. The prevailing theme is – What is best for the client?
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