This is a recent webinar, with my friend Dr. Susan Kaye, about the Triadic Model, and the Expanded Triadic Model, in how to work with other professionals in support of your clients. Therapists, counselors, coaches, bodyworkers, touch practitioners, sacred intimates, surrogate partners, cuddlists, sexological bodyworkers, escorts and massage artists.
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Someone recently wrote to me, saying that they are working on their presentation for a conference (in Montreal!) and they had heard that in my classes I prefer people to not use the word ‘energy’, and asked if I would explain why. Word gets around, I guess – Montreal! (http://amours2.com/)
Continue readingA conversation Manuel Harand in Vienna. Manuel asks about, and we talk about, how I started on this path, what sex work means, how men and women differ (in general) in exploring the Wheel of Consent, how we learn to trust, what happens when we learn to take responsibility for
Continue readingHere’s an email from my archives – about why people might choose a surrogate over other forms of help or touch. Hi Betty, I met you at the recent **** Conference. My name is J_ and I Am a PhD Psychology Student at ****. Hope you are doing well. I
Continue readingThis is an exchange from a few years back – name is changed, of course. The inquiry came to me via my companion website, hence the name, ‘Beth’. Dear Beth, I am a committed Christian and that is the course of my spiritual/ faith growth. If it wasn’t for my
Continue reading(40 min.) I discovered this one somewhat by accident, some years back, and the more I play with it, the more powerful I notice it is. The point of this one is not the ‘massage’. It’s not the touch at all – it’s the process of noticing what it is
Continue reading[Video here – audio is below, which you can download] February 15, 2016, with Betty, Katie Sarra of Dawlish, UK, and Curt Mason of Sydney Australia. Yes, the irony is not lost on me, using a webinar to talk about embodiment! Nevertheless, we do explain a few things and take
Continue readingHere’s the recording of our free teleclass on Jan. 6, 2016. Here you get to hear about the basic principles as well as some steps to take. (Includes bonus topic – why Betty hates the word ‘appropriate’) ======================== Teaching your client to touch (1 hour) To listen: click the link.
Continue reading(11 min.) I have a very different view on the G-spot massage than most people. Recorded at Like a Pro, Oakland, 2014.
Continue reading(12 min.) This is somewhat of an extension of the Bossy Massage – same principle. The receiver, or ‘client’ directs every step along the way. Once I started playing with this one, I heard that someone else was doing something similar (Clinton Callahan) and that he had had excellent results
Continue readingHere’s a series of calls from spring 2015 – Beyond the Basics, for practitioners. This is one long lesson, but in 3 parts. To listen – just click the link. To download – on a PC, right-click – on a Mac, control-click and save-link-as Call 1 – Never ask permission
Continue reading(20 min) After the Like a Pro class in Berlin, a number of students had questions about teaching the Wheel of Consent to their students and clients. The short answer: Take what is useful and add it to what you’re doing Don’t try to explain the whole thing!
Continue reading( 6 min.) Here’s a clip about what most of us body workers have backwards. We tend to think the doing is what counts – but there is another piece that has far greater ramifications, both in the moment and long term. From Like a Pro, Oakland, October 2015
Continue readingHarry and me: get on the table, dear!
Continue reading(24 min.) An overview of basic principles about hands-on session work – what it is that creates awareness and empowerment and why the choosing is more important that the doing. This was some last minute brainstorming at Like a Pro, Oakland, October 2015.
Continue readingOne Way Touch ~ How it works, how to love it, why it feeds you. What you need to know as a professional. This was at the request of a few Sexological Bodyworkers. (45 minutes, includes questions at the end, July 2011) Receiving and Giving ~ Each of these feeds
Continue readingA few more from the files . . . Consent, Boundaries and Mentoring professionals ~ I am interviewed by Laurie Handler on her WebTalk Radio Show. (about 45 minutes, June 2011) Consent ~ Consent is more than permission. What’s a request, an offer, an invitation? How the art of consent
Continue reading(1 hour) Harry Faddis is the inventor of the 3 Minute Game – thank you, Harry! This spring I got to finally meet Harry and we had a nice long talk about that and more. (The 3 Minute Game is what gave rise to the 4 Quadrants and The Wheel
Continue readingHere’s the short version – just a definition. Below is the full version, with more questions and discussion with the practitioners there.
Continue readingHere is the recording of last week’s [March 2016] webinar, presented by The Somatic Sex Educators Association of Canada. The prevailing theme is – What is best for the client? We discuss: the client’s feeling of safety as enabling them to do their most meaningful work the importance of the
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