Ongehoord!

Here’s recent podcast with Marije Janssen – we cover the Wheel, of course, along with trying to define sex, sexuality, consent. Requests, offers and invitations. Also debunking a few consent myths. The first minute or so is in Dutch. Then the conversation is in English. Thank you, Marije! Ongehoord! aflevering

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2 Hand-outs

Woo-hoo! It took a while but here ya go – A 1-page booklet on the 3 Minute Game … and the shortest possible explanation of the quadrants. To print: Set your printer at 100%. (Your printer’s default is often 96%). This makes the folds come out right. To fold: www.youtube.com/watch?v=21qi9ZcQVto

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The Bossy Massage

(40 min.) I discovered this one somewhat by accident, some years back, and the more I play with it, the more powerful I notice it is. The point of this one is not the ‘massage’. It’s not the touch at all – it’s the process of noticing what it is

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Learning you have a choice

(12 min.) This is somewhat of an extension of the Bossy Massage – same principle. The receiver, or ‘client’ directs every step along the way. Once I started playing with this one, I heard that someone else was doing something similar (Clinton Callahan) and that he had had excellent results

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