Pleasure is a gateway to emotional and spiritual fluency. It makes us aware of things we were not aware of before, alters our blood chemistry, enhances brain function and opens new possibilities in all areas of life.The gift of loving touch heals body, heart and soul by bringing us a taste of love, both divine and personal.
Structure and Clarity
In order to dive into pleasure, we need the safety of choice and clarity. Choice and clarity must be valued in every interaction – what is being offered and received, by whom, and what is not.
Skills of Structure
The primary skill upon which everything rests is the ability of the practitioner to know what is true about himself or herself at each moment. Then comes the skill to assess what is useful for the client – and more importantly – what is not.
Other skills that follow include setting clear limits, empowering the choice of the client, guiding the making of agreements, staying clear in erotically charged states, and effectively meeting the needs of the client.
Skills of Touch
The primary factors in the quality of touch are respect, care and attention to perception. These are taught before and along with bodywork techniques. In the weekend courses, we emphasize the quality and clarity of touch. In the in-depth training we add specific techniques to that foundation.
Compassion, presence, heart, vitality, hope. These are inherent in every person, and are nurtured through grace and conscious practice. We lead our practitioners through experiences to nurture and deepen these gifts of the spirit.
Developing Inner Resource
The practitioner’s grounded emotional and erotic fluency is the foundation upon which he or she offers healing to others. You cannot hold the container for something you are afraid of yourself. The more grounded you are in your own physicality, especially the emotional and sexual, the more depth and wisdom you have to offer others. No amount of skill in a modality, be it tantric ritual or bodywork, can substitute for this.
So we always start with you. Attempting to learn tricks of the trade without this step is frustrating, confusing, counterproductive, and ethically questionable.
And one more thing . . .
Fun – In our courses, there will be experiences that challenge, some that comfort, others that connect and support. There will be discovery. There will be fun!